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    • Too early for terrible twos?

      Posted at 11:27 am by CS, on April 8, 2019

      Just shy of her turning 18 months old, this weekend Cameron gave us a run for our money. She was testing all sorts of waters and boundaries.

      She wanted to go upstairs and we wouldn’t let her, she wanted to move the baby gate at the bottom of the stairs and we wouldn’t let her. Then we rigged it so that it wouldn’t move at all and that upset her. The tantrums then started in full force. Tears flowing, snot and drool forming in flood like levels. She was throwing herself back on to the floor and was inconsolable. I thought we had another few months before we saw any traits of her terrible two stage. Apparently she wanted to get a jump on this next phase in life and to keep us on our toes.

      Considering this is a new chapter for us as a family I tried to figure out how best to approach the situation. She is still learning and trying to understand what boundaries she can push and what limits we will set for her.

      Here’s how we attempted to handle this. First, I let her cry it out. I tried not to raise my voice at her because I knew that would only cause more issues. But I did use my stern “mom” voice when letting her know what she was doing was not ok.

      Second, I removed her from the situation. She kept trying to get up the stairs and move the baby gate, so once I was done using my mom voice I would pick her up and move her away from the area. Just so she knew that we were not to play on the stairs. Granted, she kept going back and before we fixed the baby gate she did end up getting up the stairs once or twice. When she succeeded, I knew it was partly because she wasn’t listening, and partly because we didn’t have the baby gate secure so I knew it was not fully her fault so how could I punish her when she was still learning. She did get put in a 2 min timeout where I sat her down and spoke to her about exactly why she was in trouble. I told her I understood that she wanted to go upstairs, that the excitement of being upstairs was fun but she needed to listen to mommy because I just want her to be safe.

      Third, we created a distraction. Now, I understand bribing a child isn’t the best way to deal with things, and I wouldn’t call what we did a bribe, but while she was crying and screaming and throwing her tantrum, after removing her from the situation I would sit with her on my lap and try to calm her down and put on one of her favorite shows or movies. Just showing her I was there for her I think diffused the situation a little more quickly.

      Now I know that we have more mountains to climb since she’s not quite two yet and I do see more tantrums coming our way, but hopefully learning some more tips will help us be able to handle them if they happen to come about as she is still testing the waters on what she can and can’t do. I want her to have confidence and be independent, but I also want her to learn to listen and be disciplined.

      Posted in Mom-ing, W(h)ine-ing | 1 Comment | Tagged baby, blog, crying, discipline, mom, tantrum, terrible two
    • I work too….

      Posted at 4:00 pm by CS, on March 23, 2019

      So I have bit of a whining sort of post to make. And maybe it’s just me, or the area I live in.

      But why do most of the classes offered for toddler aged kids happening in the middle of the week day???? I know it helps a lot with the ability to get toddlers in class, and gives those stay at home moms more options as well, but what about those of us that work?!? I would love to stay at home with my child but it just didn’t work for us at the time so I have to keep my full time job. And I would also love to get my child into music, dance, gymnastics classes for a sense of just learning and participating in new activities, but I can’t afford to take off once a week because the only classes I’ve found are mid morning in the middle of the week.

      Thankfully I have found swim classes for her age on the weekends, and maybe I need to do some more digging on these other activities, or look into private lessons. I just don’t find it fair that my girl may have to miss out because her momma has to work.

      Posted in W(h)ine-ing | 0 Comments | Tagged classes, mid week, timing, toddler
    • It was scary…

      Posted at 7:46 pm by CS, on March 16, 2019

      If you read my previous post, you know I had trouble with breastfeeding, and one of the major reasons I had some issues was due to having gallstones which led to me needing to have my gallbladder removed a mere 6 weeks after giving birth.

      I’m sharing this, because apparently this is slightly common with first time moms, or women who have recently given birth. I had no idea that what I thought was just normal pregnancy pain, was probably my gallbladder the whole time. Guess it’s tome to have baby number 2 and see. (Wink wink, haha J/K hubby!!)

      So anyway, here’s my story so that maybe another momma out there can relate, or if having the same or similar symptoms, can get checked out.

      Most of my pregnancy I had pretty bad abdominal pain. Not so bad I felt the need to constantly get it checked, but all in all very very uncomfortable. I’m a small girl so I just figured, as Cameron was growing, she was running out of room and was just using all the space she had. I swore over and over she was just up in my ribs, kicking, or lodged up in there and refusing to move. I checked with the doctor during my appointments but nothing ever raised concern to do more about it.

      Fast forward to about 3/4 weeks after giving birth, I feed Cameron, put her down for the night, (well the first part), and lay down myself. As soon as I laid down, I started having chest pains, at first I thought it was indigestion, but as time went on it only got worse, and then I was having trouble breathing. I was convinced I was having a heart attack. So I went to get my mom, and scared the crap out of her in the process. She had me lay down and went to get my husband. When he came downstairs and saw me, he suggested we go to the hospital. When I said ok he knew it was serious. If you remember from my birth story post I’m stubborn, so when I willingly and quickly said yes we could go to the hospital he knew it was bad. So we made sure Cameron and my mom were good and drove down to the closest ER we could find.

      In the emergency room they ran test after test trying to rule out everything they could. It wasn’t a heart attack, they didn’t think it was a blood clot, it wasn’t this or that or this or that. And finally after a few hours they took me for an ultrasound where they discovered not only did I have a bunch of gallstones, but a kidney stone as well. Which those I’m prone to so I wasn’t shocked. The ER doctor said I would need to have my gallbladder removed sooner rather than later so I didn’t keep experiencing these episodes.

      We left the hospital and the next day I got with my doctor to set up a consultation with a surgeon. I was in maternity leave so I wanted it done right away. I also knew the longer I waited the less likely I would want to have the surgery because I kept freaking myself out about it. I’ve watched every episode of Grey’s Anatomy. I know what could happen. So we had the consultation, I had the surgery, all went well, and I now write this one gallbladder less in my body. It was a fairly basic and routine procedure. The recovery time for me was about 48 hours before I could really be up and moving and holding my daughter again. About a week before I really felt back to normal, and about 72 hours before I was attempting to breastfeed again.

      I’m not sure why my supply tanked after the surgery. Maybe I wasn’t doing something right, or maybe something in my body just was misaligned, but it’s a big reason why we started adding more formula to Cameron’s diet and then eventually switching over fully.

      But to those out there that didn’t know about gallstones, or are wondering if they may have them. All of my pain was right below the breast area on both sides. When I couldn’t breathe and was super in pain it was like a T shape of pain. And I don’t know if it triggered it or what but I had a pizza sandwich the night of my attack that sent me to the hospital. So just keep on the lookout!!

      Posted in Mom-ing, W(h)ine-ing | 0 Comments | Tagged gallbladder, mom, stones, surgery, symptoms
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